Gaining weight purposely?

[eric447 (deleted)]

asking the women here what they think if there partner asked them to gain weight purposely, for example if i met a skinny or average shaped woman and wanted her to become a BBW, or if a man wanted his bbw to gain a few more pounds or even go closer to ssbbw, tell me what you think and be honest

[janiekin (deleted)]

`Sounds a little suspect to me. Everyone deserves to be loved for who they are. Isn't wanting someone to be bigger as bad as wanting them to be smaller? I'd feel safer with someone who wanted me to do what felt comfortable for me.

[pixxiestyxx (deleted)]

`I agree.. It's like asking a big girl to lose weight. If you can't like/love someone for who they are when you meet them.. it's not meant to be! There's plenty of 'fish in the sea', find the one you really want instead of settling for someone you really want to change.

[lonelyguy1989]

I agree aswell if your not happy with them as they are. you can ask but in the end its their choice.

Look i have a signiture

[phantus1]

`By the same token I'd like to ask what you think if a guy meets a BBW or SSBBW falls in love, in a relationship with her, and she declares she's going to go get WLS or go on a huge diet and lose all kinds of weight?

[elliemae81 (deleted)]

`Why does love need to be weight dependant? If you love someone the number on the scale shouldn't be a defining factor in whether or not you care for them. I am a person, I'm not a dress size or a number on a scale. True, physical attraction is an initial factor, you are attracted to what you like. If you get with that person and love them whether their weight varies shouldn't be an issue unless its an unhealthy extreme. A true connection needs to transcend physical attraction, because beauty fades my dears. Whatever your version of attraction may be. Weight goes up and down, hair thins and falls out, vision fails, and sometimes you need dentures... whatever the situation may be, the person inside the beautiful shell is who you share your life, your love, you happiness, pain, and self with. "Inspite of" or "because of" are pointless. My weight isn't who I am and it shouldn't be the reason you love or respect me. I am who I am at 150 pounds or 350 pounds theres just a little more or less cushion LOL, but it doesn't change my heart, my mind, or my soul. Here's a funny little thing for you to ponder : Who wants to look at a peanut and say, " Wow that is a beautiful peanut...I can't wait to bust through that shell and enjoy the nutty goodness." Only to bust it open and find nothing there? You leave disappointed and unsatisfied. People can beautiful to you and still be hollow inside, what kind of life can you truly expect to have with an empty peanut? -I'm rambling- sorry

[pixxiestyxx (deleted)]

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[xjenniferx (deleted)]

IIII don't that should be the guys decision. It should just be up to the girl or guy or whatever, as long as their comfortable with who they are it shouldnt matter regaurdless.

[southernfinery]

`eric I beleive I would tell that person to stop trying to change everyone around him to make him more able to except hisself and his inability to change about himself that which is apparently causing him so much frustration that he is having to invade others lives with it.

[enelyaseregon (deleted)]

`I have to say...the type of person that could bring up my weight in complaint or conversation other than to tell me how fantastic I look.. isn't someone I could be with.

[charliesmile (deleted)]

see, one of the common misconceptions about feederism is that it only applies to girls.

now, there are both boys and girls who take pleasure from gaining weight.
the reasons why a person wants to gain weight vary, of course.
but most people do it for the same reason some people want to lose weight -- to feel better inside of their own skin.

yes, at times, those who desire to gain weight will seek out a "feeder" to help them gain weight, or to provide encouragement, or to generally appreciate and love their expanding bodies. however, it should be known that not every feeder is a controller.
99 times out of 100, feeding is con------- -- the feedee wants to gain, the feeder enjoys this gain. it goes hand in hand.

it's a lifestyle, and it's not one for everyone.

but i'd like to think that outsiders would be willing to give those who live this lifestyle the benefit of the doubt, and understand that they are adults capable of making their own decisions.