Sex on the first date

[laidback4u_PREV (deleted)]

I think it all depends on the chemistry between both indivduals. Sometimes it's great and then sometimes it isn't? I have experienced a date a few times in my life and I found it to be a great thing.

[molukka_PREV (deleted)]

I say Hell yes --- on a first date... you never know if theres going to be a second date- why waste the opportunity? LOL!!!

*The Molukka Nut*

[techsup (deleted)]

Well, My exwife and I got together 9 years ago and we just recently seperated. We got together because we were both stubborn and talking --- and tried to out do each other. So we had to put our money where our mouth was. That was a grand weekend and would not have missed it for the world. I think --- on the first time can be a blessing and a roadblock. I have been on a few dates since our seperation and I have withheld from the idea. I have definatly wanted too. But to me if a woman want to then I will either wait for her to make the first move or need like a signal flare that says take me now. It all depends on the couple and what they want at the moment.

Gene
Cincinnati

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[nicolathecat (deleted)]

`I would not feel guilty for having --- on a first date. If the chemistry is there and I like a guy then whatever feels right is cool. Sometimes you just feel comfortable with someone the moment you meet them, waiting till the fourth + date is not going to change who you are or who they are. If you connect you connect.

[semieka]

`I have had --- on the first date and I always felt guilty, because that's not the kind of person that i want to be. But sometimes it is hard not too. My relationships length didn't seem to make a difference. Still, how I feel about myself... I just don't like it. I think it's more exciting when you wait. You can never get that first time back.

[stars00]

I have done this, and afterwords there is a part of me that did feel guilty/easy. But In the heat of the moment, sometimes things are uncontrollable, the Urge sometimes so strong, damn hormones


I have to quote SEMIEKA

"I have had --- on the first date and I always felt guilty, because that's not the kind of person that i want to be. But sometimes it is hard not too."
ditto

[mspeachyqueen]

`Im with semieka & stars00 - I have done it, and I have regretted it. It isnt who I wanted to be. Does that mean it wont happen again? Probably not. Sometimes the moment is just too intense and you have to flow with it.
I dont think that its impossible to build a solid relationship from one that started with first date sex, but I do think that it complicates things from the very start.

[thyckchyck]

I need to feel a connection to be able to sleep with someone I don't think that can be established on the first date if it can I havent felt it...

[nicki (deleted)]

`I am with thyckchyck on this one...you probably should have established a connection and I for one can't do that in one date...what do you really know about someone in a few hours...I think --- is much too personal to just be having it with anybody I am protective over my body and I think I would want to know the persons background...speaking as someone who works in the healthcare field my first thought would go to STD etc....maybe that is also part of why I am so particular...maybe I am too romantic of a soul I think it should mean something if you are just gonna have --- with random people when you finally do met someone you wanna spend your life with it doesn't mean anything anymore...maybe I am an outdated fool, and not saying anything against those who do hey everyone has a life they must live for themselves...as for me first date --- will not happen i need to feel trust etc first before I let someone that close to me...

[nataliemuse]

2rainbow wrote:


I see nothing wrong with --- on the first date, if you're adult enough to know that that is exactly what it is: --- on a first date. It isn't instant love, a commitment, an engagement, or 'going steady'--it's ---.



I thought this was a great explanation....as long as you keep the situation in perspective....you should be fine with whatever decision you make :)

[thedoll (deleted)]

i wouldn't do that. --- i think is supposed to have a emotional meaning as well as physical. but i'm a virgin so yeah, that's my one-sided story. i do think if you're just looking for that then go right ahead. but i think most people in the world are looking for something else. if you're having --- on the first date what does that say about your partner? do you know him/her, does he/she care about your feelings? no. they're in it for one thing only and to be honest, there probably won't be a second date.

[snocapdstar (deleted)]

`I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I'm not gonna judge others on what they feel. But in my own instance, I need to trust someone and know them a good amount before any --- goes down.

[jesseh (deleted)]

princessofpink wrote: How do you feel about --- on the first date? If you did it, would you regret it later? If you have --- on the first date, do you think you improve or hurt your chances of having a second date?



It's a terrible idea to have --- on the first date, I've done it but only with people that I didn't intend on having a relationship with (when I was younger). It speeds it all up, and you have to think "What does this person want from me?" "Do they want to have a sincere relationship with me, or are they just in it for sex?" "Will this -go anywhere-?"

If he or she wants you enough they'll wait - I'm talking to you ladies and gents! WAIT!!! How many times does Dr Phil and Oprah have to say it?! lol

From what I've polled and read about in the past - the recommended waiting period for --- is at least 3 months.

*thinks "And this is why I've never had a relationship last more than a few months -ever-"*

INTJesseh

[wykedthyck]

`I agree with Jess in some respects...I too have done it but usually with people that I wasn't emotional interested in. If I thought there was really something long term I might want ...then I waited. At least till the second date LOL!

Never felt guilty. I am grown and I made the choice and usually got a great night's sleep afterward!

[daydreamer86 (deleted)]

First let me say that I don't judge people on whether they do or don't. To each is own. But I don't like to have --- on the first date. I've talked to a guy for a bit and felt comfortable enough to have --- on the first date and have had it go both ways. Once I didn't hear from the guy again and the other we were together for a year. But I have also waited and that made it soooo much better. The first time felt so special as did everytime after. So I prefer to wait. I'm not talking til marriage or even a whole year. But not the first date. It's funny, the more I like the guy the more special I want it to be. And if he doesn't want to wait.....well maybe he's not the guy for me.