Giving without receiving

[tionnedawnstar (deleted)]

My ex was like that... he'd literally beg me for oral sex, but would never give it back... and I really like giving and recieving... well it got to the point that all he'd do was take, and it completely ruined our --- life... he started with oral, but then he stopped caring about anything at all and only did it to get himself off... after that I swore I'd never give unless it was mutual... either everyone gets oral... or no one does... I just let myself suffer by not giving because I don't want to be used like that again...

[sweetsiren]

I agree with what you said C.C.G.


I really like giving oral and only want it if he's any good. It does sound bad but if he's all teeth and flying blind down there I'd rather just move forward.

The issue of him refusing but still accepting is not on! If the guy can do it and is good at it but just prefers not too then that's fine but he ain't getting any back till he realises that a relationship of any kind is a 2 way street and is about giving aswell as recieving that my humble opinion

[lonelynbama_PREV (deleted)]

i wouldnt make him if he didnt want to . but as far as me giveing , thats a passion of mine i wouldnt deprive him , just because he didnt wanna give oral......im sure i would think of a way for him to make it all better....

[abfab1988]

Not a problem. I love providing fantastic fellatio but do not particularly care for cunnilingus unless a man is a master at it. Even then I prefer his other attributes, usually.

AbFab1988

[deedeefree]

I love giving but it must be a two way street

I read a report that said the typical symptoms of stress were eating too much, drinking too much, impulse buying, and driving too fast. Who are they kidding? That's my idea of a perfect day.

[paperdress]

I actually wouldn't mind if they didn't want to perform oral on me. It's funny, though...I lost my virginity at a fairly young age, but it was just basic sex, no oral, no foreplay, etc. I dreamed about having someone perform oral --- on me for years before it actually happened, and when it did...I was highly disappointed. It's not for lack of trying or experience on my partner's behalf, though. Different men have done it different ways at different times and I honestly just don't get all that excited about it.

However, I LOVE to give, so this would actually be an ideal situation for me. I would certainly expect to receive attention in other ways, but not having my partner go down on me wouldn't be the end of the world for me.

Kisses,
PaperDress

[missbossyboss]

The best way to avoid this dilemma is to be completely up front with your ------ expectations. Talk about your ------ likes and dislikes. Make sure you're compatible on that front, also.

I would never choose to be intimate with a man who was not going to want to perform oral --- on me. I love receiving oral --- and am more than happy to return the favor. Also, I don't mind a man who's not very good at it initially, as long as they are willing to take direction and catch on.

[downontheupside_PREV (deleted)]

I don't have a problem with giving and not getting any back.
It's not like I do this to you so you gotta do it to me...

Without being too crude I would rather give than recieve as I enjoy giving sooo much more!

[markwiderstrom (deleted)]

I feel that if a person is going to have a relationship, the man should always want to be a giving person to the woman's needs ,wants and desires.I feel a man has a responsibility to be someone that cab be totally open, with a woman. If a woman likes it the man should want to help the lady have all the feelings she can have with him.Too many relationships hit the rocks cause people aren't truthful or they are looking for something else in life. Sometimes ladies are too picky too as to finding and receiving love. People don't look into the HEART today, they do not even take time to see what the other person is all about. Also I find ladies make every excuse not to have a full filling relationship,and have stigmas,and or they have been hurt in the past and have not made the attempt to move ahead in life, and stay in a rut. The man comes along Many want to be the best lover,best friend a woman can have but usually the lady have a thousand and one excuses why she won't date or give her love to a Good mna when he comes along and makes the first move its REJECTION from one thing to another. If this gets into the relationships it will never work.Especially if there are hang ups and not real commitment. Communications is the key,Giving is the key and receiving is the key. I don't mind giving a woman oral I can do that as much as making love many times a day or week. I want to be someone that will make a woman heart and just melt instantly.

I want a lady that is not afraid to take the first step and most certainly won't make excuses in the bed. I want a woman to be free to be able to do all the love she can stand and give and receive. I don't want a shallow person either,I rather have someone that looks deep in a heart and goes from there and not just looking at a picture or my location. IT TAKES 2 PEOPLE to make love work not just one sidedness. Thanks for reading Mark

[blueeyedgodess]

I love giving oral! Its my favorite thing haha yeah I also like to try a lot of different new and creative things that I think up. I enjoy it so much I acually got a book to give me some ideas and tips. lol I know I'm crazy all my friends think its nasty ohh well whatever turns you on. Yeah I sometimes like when guys give me oral... just depends. I would totally be alright if they diden't want to. If they aren't into letting me perform on them that woulden't be okay... haha

.*:AmAnDa:*.

[(deleted)]

If you were involved with someone who did not like to give *rally but enjoyed receiving, would you still give to them even though they did not give in return? If so, would you do it for their pleasure or because you actually enjoy giving?



i don't do oral on anyone,mainly because most men cheats,and i don't know where his.....been! also it would do nothing for me.but if i did...i would'nt date a guy who wanted it done on him.but didn't want to do me.now there are some,men and women,who love just giving.and that's cool! but for the guys that want to recieve and not give...i wouldn't play myself like that. if his stuff is good enough to put my mouth on!...then so is mine! i don't mine pleasing my guy..but he's got to please me too!....peace!




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[buzcut (deleted)]

`I have been in that situation, the gal loved to be pleasured oraly, but she wouldnt go down on me, she said that she thought it was nasty, yet, loved it when I went down on her...

that didnt last long,

[lotti352]

`I was in a relationsip where the guy started out liking receiving and giving. That changed quickly, after only a few months he only wanted to receive. I was fine with it for about a second. LOL What gives! He liked it then, it was all about him. That includes ---. Needless to say that didn't last long. If he doesn't want to please he doesn't get pleasure.
It's really frustrating that some men expect us to give but then they don't want to give back.

[blkbird_PREV (deleted)]

`well im a can tell u this i love giving! id rather give than recieve. getting it is ok but i have never found a girl who can get me to the finish line lol, plus i like to give a girl some pleasure its about her not me i think! lol

[nicolathecat (deleted)]

`I would not mind as long as there was mutual pleasure in otherways. I love forplay and if all he wants is to recieve and then get off...well that is depressing. If my giving is part of a mutual pleasure thing, well then it is a wonderful loving thing and I am happy.