Who's opinion really matters?

[metalman69_PREV (deleted)]

This is now my third real topic and as usual I will state this is only an opinion and I am no expert in this subject. You ever hear the saying "opinions are like @ssh*les, everyone has got one". I feel this is true to a major extent. I look at opinions in a three dimensional way. You have your own, the person you are dealing with and an outside view point. If these views are opinions then there are no right or wrong answers. When it comes down to it the most important opinion should be your own. The only time someone else's opinion should matter is if you ask for it. The question you all are probably wondering is how does this apply to dating? One mistake alot of people make is second guessing how there date feels. I, like alot of people have made this mistake. Regardless if you are right or wrong about how someone else feels about you, it is wise not to use that view point. One date I when on I sense alot of what the date felt about me, so I second guessed what they were feeling. After the date I told them how I felt they viewed me and they ended up getting very upset. I was right about things not working, but I should of left it at that. I learned if you ever say something to the extent that things are not working, use your own view point of how you felt, not how they felt. A week after the date I was thinking about what happened and I did finally realize when it came down to it what she thought did not matter as far as a decision that I had to make. The only way it would of mattered is if I had asked her for an opinion or she told me straight out she did not want to deal with me. In the long run it is best to let things go and make a decision base on how the date made you feel. If a date blows you off afterwards then you know that things did not work either and due to their lack of communication they are not even worth thinking about. On the other hand, if you had liked the person you saw, then at that point you do want their opinion to know if they felt the same way. This is a time when someone's opinion will matter. There could be so much more said about mutual feelings or differences, but this is all have say at the time. I would love to get any feedback I can on this subject because I feel I still have a few things to learn myself and I feel you can learn something from everyone. Thank you for viewing this forum.

[songlily33_PREV (deleted)]

Just to show that I too read the forum posts.
Thanks Metalman for replying on mine...thought I would offer the same courtesy.
Now, as far as opinions go, I don't hold much stock in them. I think I respect the opinions of my parents because they are my heros. I value the opinions of my closests friends because they won't lie to save me or to make me feel better. I ask for the opinions of my siblings (but that is only because my mom told me to!).
Anyone elses opinions whether asked for or simply granted is all just another persons view of life.
Did someone ever tell you that "The World Doesn't Revolve Around YOU!!!"
Well, in a sense, it does. There can never be anyone else who is you, has your family, has your friends, has your connections. Take you from the center of that cycle and the cycle no longer exsists.
So think of it like this, opinions that influence your life are to be taken seriously and with the utmost sincerity for which they were intended.
And the opinions of those who simply try to invade your universe can go sit on an egg!!!
Help any?

[metalman69_PREV (deleted)]

Thank you songlily33 for your input and as always I appreciate any feedback. I give you credit, you brought up a couple points I did leave out. Opinions can also mean something if they are from a friend or close family member. You are right because these are people that are part of your life. If a opinion is significant to your life it may or may not means somethings, but at that point you may want to listen to it. I still feel the most important opinion will always be yours in the long run.

Have a great day.