What do guys really want?

[ronnij]

Im just wondering what do guys really want?I know not all guys want the same thing but ive never met a guy that truely knows what they want in a woman or anything.No offense to no guy i just am wonderng .Can some one please tell me . But i guess some women are the same way idk

Cutie pie

[jayduhgr8]

`It really comes down to the guy. can't lump us all into a category because though we many similarities every guy is still different. So it really comes down to what an individual guy wants and the reasoning behind it. I cannot speak for any other men on this site nor anywhere else and I would hope they would not attempt to speak for me.

You have to understand guys are simple yet complex so though the things we may want seem simple its not always the case.

For instance I want someone who loves me for who I am. Simple right? Wrong. Because I have honestly yet to find a woman who can accept me for me. Yes they say they like me for who I am and I guess they "deal" with who I am for a period of time but sooner or later something happens and all of a sudden they're tired of the person I am and I need to change to make them happy. I am not saying all women are like this but a lot of the ones I have dated and been around are.

Just my perspective anyways.

[balls4you (deleted)]

`^i feel the same way. it depends if the guys looking for a gf or just a h--k up buddy

[dennis15 (deleted)]

`if a woman can accept a man for what he is on the inside and a man accept a woman on the same basis then maybe a relationship will last longer , but it comes down to the question - im looking for a sincere woman that dont play games who wants to get to know me and be my friend then build the friendship from there one step at a time, loyalty on both sides is crucial.

[sinkrin (deleted)]

`A woman who doesn't systematically try to change every fibre of my being would be nice.

[marikine]

sinkrin wrote: `A woman who doesn't systematically try to change every fibre of my being would be nice.



But that's what we women do best, right? Try to fit you in the perfect little package of what we want exactly in a man, haha.


As for the thread question, not sure anyone will know what anyone else wants until everyone stops playing the classic mind games, lol. :D

[thelonelydoctor (deleted)]

`Simple, everybody (Man or Woman) wants to be able to be themselves, with the minimum effort of compromise. And the biggest mistake that someone could make is to change who you are in order to make someone like you or be with you. Then you are the one unhappy and start acting weird in front of the other person, and if you can't keep up trying to be someone else, then the other person is just going to lose interest and leave. And I think that everybody will agree here that you "Want" to be yourself when you are with another person.

The Doctor

[earn305]

basically i believe that (men&women) do not know what they want because we confuse ---- for love way to much i mean for me it took me 20yrs to know what i liked , and one thing that everyone should know you cannot have a perfect relationship without both parties compromising

[earn305]

basically i believe that (men&women) do not know what they want because we confuse ---- for love way to much i mean for me it took me 20yrs to know what i liked , and one thing that everyone should know you cannot have a perfect relationship without both parties compromising

[fourletterfame (deleted)]

`Being what someone wants you to be isn't brave, or flattering. It's a cheap alternative to what's really important, being yourself.

Give me a woman who is brave enough to be and do what she wants, regardless of what I may think I want, she will be there to give me what I need.

[fyrefylli (deleted)]

`What people want and need r 2 different things. We all want someone who loves us for who we are but we change everyday. We r incapable of loving everything about someone. And people never really show their true face at the beginning of the relationship. Inevitably our partners see the face we hide and try to remask us

[loverboywk]

`From interesting to sort of depressing, haha, but these are all very well put ideas.

A) Being yourself without fear of rejection.
B) Not having to worry about labels or being relabeled.
C) Being allowed full growth of our character and still being enjoyed for whoever we are.
D) Finding someone who is the same as ourselves so that any relationship (sexy fun time not included but not forgotten) can improve both or all peoples involved with no worries of rejection.

I've probably missed a few points, but this seems a good summary, in my not so humble opinion.


As for myself, yes, all of these do fit in somewhere. I think we could agree they do for all people to different degrees. But it's what is more important to guys that make them different, I'm afraid no blanket rule can apply.

But I digress; independence outside of the relationship and in it as well, a supporting role in my partner's life with the same to be expected, and lastly open ideas and freedom about s----lity and how it plays into our daily lives. No, this doesn't mean having freaky deaky S-- everyday, but remembering that we are beings who's s----l sides have grown and being able to enjoy the glances, smiles, and knowledge of fun thoughts.

[maya86]

`Well, depends on what they're actually looking for then- a quick fling, a relationship, or marriage.

It is my understanding though that many (but not all) guys will 'go around' until they find the one.

What does a marriage-minded guy want? Someone comfortable, someone that compliments and completes him, someone trustworthy and most importantly, someone he can take home and introduce his family to... All the positive qualities come in.. they want a strong, independent woman that's comfy in her skin but hey.. its biological destiny and its in their hormones and stuff so yeah.. they would love to help/protect a woman. Women should know when to admit they need help. :)

[toucherpudge (deleted)]

`I think many people don't know what they want.. period. LOL That's why it seems like so many of us are grasping at straws in the dark.

I also think many people focus on the flowery less important wants, which can change like the direction of the wind- instead of picking people with matching core values, which is what they really need- and then worry about the fluff stuff later. Yes I know there needs to be some commonality other than the core values - but your values are ultimately what dictates the kind of person you are... so I guess a better question could be "What does a guy that's good for you want?"

But some people lie out right to get what they want temporarily until they get bored. So, either way... it's a mixed bag.

Notice I said "people." LOL

[fanate197 (deleted)]

`Hmmmm well I've seemed to notice in social situations, when there is a large group of guys, they tend to go by the weakest link rule. That being, the douchiest guy in the group dictates what the other guys do.