Jus because.....

[tkandie]

Ladies jus because you are a full figured, plus size, curvy, ladie....does mean we cant be se---lly uninhibited and have self confidence about ourselves. Im a full figured ladie and I work for a in home romance company that does adult toy parties. You know ladies those girls night in parties with the toys and edbiles. Well before I joined with this company I always hosted these type of parties cause I was always buying something to play with or taste or wear alone or with my man. Im a firm believer in you should not have bodie issues and be self conscience with your man because he must be attracted to the BBW. He is with isnt he? Single ladies you too should not be having issues either because BIG is Beautiful!! Dont get me wrong we wanna be healthy too but being BBW does not mean sick and ugly. Paint ya toes and keep a cute hairstyle and be neat in appearence and HOLD your Damm HEad UP!! I walk around head held high (not all snootie) and with a sexy strut. (smile)....sorry this post is long but Im all about empowerement of the big gurls!! So any ladies want to talk and get to be buddies im just a click away.

[sheevaa]

`Agreed kandie, way to say it. I think the same way. I think that if someone doesn't like how I look, they don't have to look at me. If a guy is with me, he better damn well like how I look. I know I don't go out with men I don't find attractive.
When I go out, I dress to the nines, get all made up and have no problem shaking it on the dancefloor. Honestly, other than a couple of kids PoV's, this attitude has saved me from ridicule and putting up with miserable people's attitudes.

We all have a right to live, love and be happy!

[hiwayman (deleted)]

`sheevaa with your attitude I'm betting you don't do a lot of dating. I wouldn't date you. No matter how "hot" you may think you are. I've dated a lot of women that I didn't see as " hot" that turned out to pretty nice gals. If you think that looks is whats gonna get you thu life then you haven't lived very long.

[sheevaa]

`So, because I have confidence in my own worth, and won't take people bashing me, that makes me a shallow, vain person? Where is there did I say thought I was hot? I like to think I am attractive, yes, but I certainly know I'm not all, if not most men's cup of tea. I think you're trying hard to twist my words into something you would like to think I am. It isn't me that needs to grow up, dear.

For the record, my definition(s) (they are many and varied) of a person I think is good looking isn't a standard media viewpoint. So thanks for the uninvited analysis, but you should keep your day job.

[josh8080 (deleted)]

Have to agree with the gals here. Why is it most guys on BBW sites seem to like the females dumb and with no self confidence (note I said most not all). I would not date a woman who didn't have some self confidence and was proud of who she was.

[vewdewkween]

I have a decent level of self esteem. What bothers me, is that most of the world does revolve around looks. I could care less, I look for someone who has something intelligent or humorous to say.

[sheevaa]

`Vewdewkween - I don't believe looks are everything. I do think though, that you should have pride in how you look. I think you have to have some level of physical attraction to a person, but a lot of it, for me, comes from how compatible we are. The sexier the man's personality and intelligence...The hotter I find him, no matter his physical looks.

The last man I dated had average looks, but he was very confident. We had so much in common and we had such passionate conversations about the world/politics/hobbies that I found him very attractive.

He turned out to be a jerk, unfortunately...so lack of beach boy hottie looks doesn't stop that sort of attitude, still:/

[starmking (deleted)]

`sheevaa I agree with you that looks are not everything but you should take pride in how you look b/c if you let your self feel ugly everyone else will also.
confidence is very hot in both men and women. I am not saying I am 100% ok with how I look b/c believe you me I have some issues but I do think you are 100% right and that --- hole who said he wouldnt date you b/c you "THOUGHT YOU ARE SO SEXY " is a jerk...lol

[starmking (deleted)]

`ha ha I mean and you should not But you should ;)

[sheevaa]

`Thanks for the back-up, Starm. And that's okay, I wouldn't date him either ;)

[ghostdriver (deleted)]

`It is a combination of all those elements, in varying amounts. I have ecountered women who were very physically attractive but had nothing going on upstairs. Confidence, wit, charm, etc are as important..possibly more important than looks, even for a woman, believe it or not...atleast in my opnion. Women are held to a much more difficult standard when it comes to physical appearance. As a man, As long as I am somewhat charming and witty, it seems not to matter how much hair I lose up to and how many inches I gain around the waist..and when the remaining hair becomes ever greyer, well it just makes me look "distinguished"...I need not tell you the same standard does not apply to women, but even still...looks only go so far, and a lack of confidence (regardless of looks) is a buzzkill to be sure.

[ajey]

`i agree with tkandie fully why cant us bbw be sexy we look just as good as thin women if not better. its society making self esteems drop the way they do if bbw were only used in commercials all you would see is thin people being rejected and experiencing what we all have. and looks only go so far, but no woman should lower her standards and settle for something less being a bbw isnt a handicap it shouldnt be treated as one