How honest should you be when writing your profile?

[metalman69_PREV (deleted)]

I am not expert in this subject in anyway, but I do have some experiences from lots of dating sites and actual dates I have gone on. I have found that when you are not honest enough you might get alot of responses, but most of them you will get will not work out( in my case 95 percent). If you are too honest(much too honest at that) almost no one will respond to you at all and alot of women will easily get offended(the same could be said for men too). I think when you write a profile you should be as honest as you can in a constructive way. The first thing you want to do is write about the things you do want(be complete about it) and try not to put alot of things you don't want(people seem to like positive people for the most part). If you feel something might be offensive, but you have to add it for some reason include a short explaination why you said that. In the long run if you are a little too honest it will be better that way because at least the responses you do get will be from people that have more respect for you and you are likely to get along with them better. But don't be discouraged, not everyone in the world is going to like you(for perhaps your looks or personality), if you are at least being yourself and are honest about that people have to respect that. If someone does not respect that they have no respect for themselves or anyone else in life and they are not worth even thinking about.

[1whitekitten (deleted)]

Hi MetalMan,you have hit the topic everyone else ignores but one that really is SOO important.
Why be anything less than complteely honest..??? If someone is genuinely looking for a partner then why lie or distort the truth.
Any relationship worth its weight must be based on truth.......if it isn;t then its doomed before it even gets started...
If people cannot cope with who they are then maybe the idea would be to
get to know yourself first...........how can anyone else get to know you if all you have written in a profile is lies...?????
So for me the first two things is TRUTH and then TRUST...if you can obtain these then your at a good starting place......and one that has a very good chance of surviving...
Good Luck....you sound like a really nice guy.....stick with Truth you will find your Lady...

[tropicalbreeze]

Well this is a interesting one. Dealing with different clients....I've come to know that most online members have a tendency to live a fantasy that they're unable to fulfill within their surroundings.

In the long run,....after the laughs and falling in love for someone online....but yet, you will never succeed due to lies and the manipulations and let's not forget the "betrayal".

You have to be honest with yourself.....you know your limitations when providing personal information.

In order to earn respect from others, you have to respect yourself.

[eyesofblue459 (deleted)]

Great subject!

I can't imagine anyone not being honest in their profile. The goal is to eventually meet. If a person is dishonest in their profile, it won't take long before their true selves are revealed. If not during emails/phone calls and chatting, then for sure when you spend time with them in person. What a waste of time on everyone's part.

I am fairly new to the online dating scene, so until I read this thread, I didn't even consider that someone would be dishonest. I thought online profiles, are the perfect venue for putting the real you out there and then seeing if anyone is interested.

Thanks for starting the thread!

[sthrndelight_PREV (deleted)]

i have had my gf's tell me that i'm too honest but as i see it i am what i am and who i am and i wont change for anyone...i tell it like it is for me and if someone doesn't wanna take the time to get to know me because of what they read its their loss not mine...i have no reason to lie and wont...and will answer any question anyone has that they wanna ask...i think i'll reread my profile now and make sure i got in it the main things i want people to know.lol...

[shilokw_PREV (deleted)]

metalman69 wrote: I am not expert in this subject in anyway, but I do have some experiences from lots of dating sites and actual dates I have gone on. I have found that when you are not honest enough you might get alot of responses, but most of them you will get will not work out( in my case 95 percent). If you are too honest(much too honest at that) almost no one will respond to you at all and alot of women will easily get offended(the same could be said for men too). I think when you write a profile you should be as honest as you can in a constructive way. The first thing you want to do is write about the things you do want(be complete about it) and try not to put alot of things you don't want(people seem to like positive people for the most part). If you feel something might be offensive, but you have to add it for some reason include a short explaination why you said that. In the long run if you are a little too honest it will be better that way because at least the responses you do get will be from people that have more respect for you and you are likely to get along with them better. But don't be discouraged, not everyone in the world is going to like you(for perhaps your looks or personality), if you are at least being yourself and are honest about that people have to respect that. If someone does not respect that they have no respect for themselves or anyone else in life and they are not worth even thinking about.

Put in short..........Quote: Always be yourself, because the one's that matter, don't mind.....And the one's that mind, don't matter

[averagebiggirl]

I think it's very important to be as honest as possible, when writing your profile. You don't want to mislead anyone, and you certainly don't want to be hurt as well.

Sometimes, it's hard for people to be honest about some of their faults or hang ups, but you should give your potential friend a chance to decide for themselves if they wish to hang out with you or not.

And, let's just be honest...when the person meets you in person, it's going to be pretty apparent that you're not that 6'2, atheletic, multi-millionaire, play boy. It's like falling for someone who doesn't exist.

No one wants to be lied to...so, let's just keep it real.

Here for a good time....not for a long time.

[adipocere_PREV (deleted)]

I don't think truth and honesty are the same things. Truth is something that is concrete. Where as honesty is more feelings and views based. Truth doesn't change, but honesty does. What you want in a person today may not be what you want tomarrow.

If a person isn't truthful, I doubt they will even know how to be honest, even with themselves.

I'm very new to the whole posting your profile thing, but I would think it would be best to be truthful yet ambiguous.

Reading through the profiles I find many things that are redundant. Seriously, how many people who play games in relationships or who have excessive baggage understand they do? I think that's just something you have to learn about the person as you interact with them.

[heavens]

It is very important to be truthful on profiles so as not to hurt others, but sometimes it's hard for people to face the realities of truth and they live in their own fantasy worlds so as to protect themselves. I guess if your profile is basically true, if someone is interested in you and you start actually start talking to a real person and not the masses you should be completely truthful especially if you plan on a meeting.

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