Falling into the "friend zone"...

[lookinforlove93 (deleted)]

Has anyone else on here been having problems with this? I've met some really great guys on here and we've become friends on FB and exchanged numbers and even text on a regular basis, but that's the extent of it. I just don't understand what's going on..I mean this IS a dating site for crying out loud! Is there something women do to cause guys to want to keep them around but to not take it any further? There's nothing worse than falling into the friend zone..

[nicki (deleted)]

`Good for you on meeting some people on here, that is always a good start...maybe those guys you are talking too don't know if you want to take it to a further extent...even though this is a dating site of sorts, loads of people here are wanting to find friends and people they can be comfortable talking too...if you have found someone you might wanna bit more from put the feelers out, worse that can be said to ya is no, which is much the same as real life(as opposed to online life)...sometimes the friend zone is a great place to be friends sometimes last longer than relationships...just my humble opinion as per normal LOL

[lookinforlove93 (deleted)]

`No, I agree! You're right! It just seems like a lot of times when there is great chemistry, they don't take the next step. And I am not aggressive or bold, so I certainly don't take charge!

[nicki (deleted)]

`You don't have to be bold or aggressive, subtle hints can work as well...I am like you I am not a go getter, I have no problem with expressing myself but I like to know where I stand first lol...maybe that why I am single at this point in my life but so be it I guess...if there is great chemistry then make the magic work...good luck hope you find the other half :)

[justans91 (deleted)]

`oh I get stuck there wayyy to often -__-

[jadedbecky]

`ha! I live in the friend zone. Or all to often, the "she's only good for S-- when I can't have the person I really want" zone.

[exilesky (deleted)]

I feel like a lot of the people I'm meeting in cyberspace aren't really interested in anything in person at all. I find this puzzling but I think its a trend on all the dating sites - is everybody really this introverted? Any dates I've been on recently I've had to initiate them. I can't understand why a person is willing to talk to me constantly in cyberspace but doesn't want to make the effort to go out in public - isn't that what we're doing this for, to make the leap from cyber to real life? Maybe I'm eccentric but I prefer reality to fantasy, and I guess some people must have agendas that don't include actual meetings with actual people. I wish they would be honest and admit it on their profiles - "only interested in cybergames - seeking nothing IRL".

My dating motto - Be ready to meet me in person or leave me alone.

[merrabellah]

`I agree with ^^^..I think people are scared of the unknown..

[flameofsuzaku]

`OMG I get this crap all the time. But for me the friend zone turns into the "lets not talk anymore" zone. I have gotten this everytime so far. What I hate the most is when someone says "oh no its not you I don't want to be with anyone right now" they are quick to change their mind if a hot skinny girl comes along and magically shows interest.

[bigrigd (deleted)]

`I personally like the friend zone for a few reasons

1.) I like having friends that are girls because that means I can ask them about girl issues since well im not a girl.
2.) it might not work out right then and there but later one maybe once one of the two has mature some it could be something really strong ( I feel a friendship into a relationship is a good thing)
3.) at least it didnt end horribly lol.
4.) take what u learn about it and improve for the next chance with someone. I mean sometimes I have to find better questions to ask or self evaluate did I do all I can.
5.) if u did do ur best with the person then in a way u should be happy the problem isnt u its the other person.

[ggr1972 (deleted)]

[mindolla]

`I do think online dating and relationships give the impression that there might be something better around the corner in the "unknown" Women and men are guilty of this but also and this does frustrate me because its very important to me to have a man with his own opinion and take charge..
Men are JUST really afraid of rejection and I know from some male friends I have, they pretty much lay back and let the woman chase them so they don't get shut down. Guys have just as many self esteem issues as women no matter what, even worse because at least a woman will get interest if its nothing else but a booty call.
If you REALLY think there is a chance for something real- go for it. Level with them and see.. if you havent met, hey maybe you can still be friends... but if its just wanted to be wanted , take the friendship and enjoy that.

[eros89]

`It often comes down to getting a signal if she's interested in meeting most guys don't progress until they get a clear cut signal their familiar with. If they don't get it, they assume your not interested.

[simplysouthern9]

`I am newer to the online dating side of things after leaving a long relationship but what I don't get is the friends ---- -------- zone. Maybe I am wrong but I feel like I can get laid from a bar....on here I am hoping for something more!

[thisisme2at (deleted)]

`Friend zone lol lol, I've been there before and I'm not going back again. This can happen to a man or a women. Generally it occurs because either the man or the woman(never both) didn't have what it took to make a relationship happen so they decide to befriend the person in hope that someday they'll come around. From my experiences(and I'm only speaking for myself) I see a hell of a lot more men end up there than I see women. With the man if he's there he tends to be the shoulder to cry on, gives a lot more than he takes, is reliable, always says yes, always agrees and is on beckon call. Now if the woman ends up there(again this is what I see and I'm not speaking for everyone else nor saying all women are like this) a lot of men use them as friends ---- -------- as well. In other words a man in the friend zone on average will never get S-- from that woman, but a woman in the friend zone have been known to go that far a lot more often. Three things that put people in the friend zone 1) The obvious, being way too nice. 2) This can apply with men and women, not being good enough looking to the other person. 3) I see men mostly falling in this category, being broke or not making enough money. A lot of people say that you end up in the friends zone because you're not honest with your intentions, this maybe true, but it's not always the case. There are time when I know I've made my intention 100% clear and me being a man a woman still only wants to be friends. If I'm stupid enough not to recognize this and realize I shouldn't be wasting my time, effort and possible money on that one particular woman then I was stupid enough to put myself there in the first place. If I am friends with anyone it's because it was earned throughout time with actions, reciprication, trust and respect. It will never be freely given to anyone(man or woman). To close it out, no reason to waste your time pursuing anyone if there are many fish in the sea .