Dating is scary!

[shadazle28 (deleted)]

I'm new to this site and I have really been enjoying reading other blogs. I thought that I'd have a go and write something.

I'm a twenty-nine woman from chicago and I've been dating forever! I'm a pretty easy going person and easy to talk to. I'm not shy whatsoever and I can talk to just about anyone. However, it seems that my dates are getting weirder and weirder.

For instance, I went on a date recently and listened to this guy talking for about 2 hours straight. He didn't even give himself time to breath in between phrases. To be polite I would nod and smile while he would talk, telling myself to stay attentive to what he's saying but every 15 minutes he would have a twitch happen with his neck. I told myself that maybe he had a tick or maybe he was nervous or something so I kept nodding and smiling. After dinner I finally sneaked in a few words here and there and before you know it, he was yelling at me because I had not asked him to kiss me. Shocked with what had just taken place, I politely told him that I have to leave and asked him if he needed a recommendation to a good therapist.

Now I know you all are thinking, "awe, this poor girl went out on a date with a guy with a mental issue" and you would be right. But, this is not that far off from allot of the dates that i've been on with people who are 'all there'!

My question is, are there any normal or close to normal guys to go out with in this city? Or should I move?

Shadazle28

[xbubblyx]

I think there's weird ones just about everywhere in the world, but these weird dates that you've been going out on, did you meet them??

[xbubblyx]

`Whoops. I meant to put **Where did you meet them??

(Of Course you've met them...haha)

[anainthestars (deleted)]

`I seem to get the same type of guys...that sees me as a therapist or something...I mean I'm open minded and nonjudgmental but there's a limit to it...some of them have issues beyond what I can do...and I'm not dating to fix people...if that's what dating is, then I'm staying solo...

[cookinbubbles]

`Geez I thought I was the only one that had odd experiences.
I was married for so long and got married so young that I feel out of it.
While I have talked to many guys via this site and others, my one experience with meeting a guy in person was so weird I am reluctant to try it again.
I chose an open busy spot because I am not an idiot...
Anyway, he seemed nice and we were sort of chatting a bit and after about 10 minutes of the usual weather, pets and how about those Vikings(I am in Minnesota) he proceeded to tell me how he enjoyed --- and exactly what he preferred and in what position. :0!
I was a little stunned and sort of babbled something polite and we parted ways. I don't even remember what I told him about why I didn't want to take it any further. I was just glad when he was gone.
I would have at least liked to have gotten his last name before discussing --- positions...LOL
Afterward I sort of ran the whole thing through my mind and kept coming back to "am I too old fashioned?" "Do I need to lighten up a bit?"
I decided that apparently I am pretty conservative and would rather not try THAT again. Not soon anyway.
Now that whole thing has me second guessing everything I say to a man who contacts me.
Sheesh!!

[shadazle28 (deleted)]

`Well, to answer xbubblyx's question, I met that guy on line. It was my first on-line meeting ever. What a train wreck! But I've met men out and similar situations have happened. I think to myself, "why do I attract such characters?"

I'm feeling the same way as anainthestars when it comes to feeling like I'd rather be alone then settle. (I'm just sayin.) I have to admit , I feel like I can't find a down to earth, nice guy. I think that I have allot to offer someone but I haven't met someone in a very long time that I would even consider dating. What's up with that?

Cookinbubbles, I feel your pain too. Going out on disaster dates are discouraging and you shouldn't settle for less than what you want. You also shouldn't let that one experience stop you from meeting people because you never know, you might find your gem ......or at least a cubic zirconia. I keep on telling myself that same thing. I hope the best for all you girls on this dating journey! If anything, we can use this website as a support system for eachother and build the sisterhood up! I do love insight and advise!

[sweetmichael (deleted)]

`I think you two will be best worth every heavenly grace in heaven to have someone love you, understand you, follow & most important respect you!!! :]

i know my comment really random but still!!! :3

sorry if this really random.

[shadazle28 (deleted)]

`If only more men felt that way.....oh how fun dating would be!

[sweetmichael (deleted)]

` :3