A mental picture that is life long.

[1ofatype (deleted)]

This is something I encounter at least 95% of time I deal with people. Not to sound sexiest, but I run in to this more with women than I do with men I have spoke to thoughout my life(maybe it's because I'm a man). Have you ever heard the saying a first impression is life long. I highly believe this is true, plus I also feel there is no such thing as a second chance at that first impression. From what I've run into in my life if a woman I have dealt with does not find me se---lly attractive the first time they meet me then they never will. One day I was wondering why the women I dealt with were like this, so I did the right thing and flatout asked some women I knew to get the answer to my question. Believe it or not, they all gave me the same answer. They all had said to me no matter if I lost a ton of weight, had plastic surgary or even somehow grew my hair back I lost throughout the year they would always have this mental picture of what I looked like before the changes and it would always prevent them from ever finding me attractive.

With this knowledge in front of me I can actually give some sound advise to a man looking for a relationship that might work to their advantage.
1) When you first meet a woman never tell them that you were bigger or lost a lot of weight at one time. Yes, they will commend you for it, but it put a bad mental picture in their head of what you used to look like and a lot of the time a thought saying "what to say this man wouldn't gain that weight back".
2) Never describe to a woman what you used to look like at one time in your life. You want this person to be interested in you for what you are now and if tell them for example that you used to be in real good shape at one time they will sometimes think to themselves what the hell happened to this man where he let himself go.
3) Never dwell upon something you will never have. If you know for a fact that when you met a woman they did not see any redeeming qualities in you, it is not likely they ever will because of the mental picture taken at the time. This does not mean you can't be friends or at least civil, it just means it is time to move on.

By the way I am not saying that everyone in life is like this at all. These are just the people I've encountered and I could never speak for everyone else. If what I've said can help anyone then I am very grateful. If anyone has any input they would like to add or a story pretaining to what I said I'd love to hear it.

Have a great day and the best of luck to all.

[hiwayman (deleted)]

`hmmmmmm I notice no responces. Doesn't surprise me at all. I heard in the news a while back that a woman can tell within the 1st 5 min if they are attracted to a guy or not. Talk about judgemental:) I think you will find the older you get the less your looks will matter. What matters most then is that you have more than enough money to provide for them and THEIR( I said their) kids. There are 2 types of women in this world buddy. The 1st ( and majority) Make it in the world by marrying some dumb SOB that works his --- off only to take him to the cleaners in the court system years latter. ( They claim to be independant most of the time) And the truly independant who make it on their own and meet this world 1/2 way. ( very rare just tell them " dutch treat" and see how long your dateing life lasts) LOL Naw your taking all this way to serious. Your starting to see the world as it really is instead of all the BS you see in writing here. Take up a hobby. I go fishin myself. Oh Yeah. Would you gals PLEASE spell check my post here. I know most of you are pretty bored. It will give ya something to do. LOLOL

[sheevaa]

`hiwayman, you take any opportunity you can to bash women, don't you? So what if it holds true for some women? I'm sure it's the exact same for a lot of men too. Maybe that's why they can't go out with a friends sister, or a woman they've known for a long time. That mental image stays with you forever. Big deal.

I'm sorry if you've had a bitter divorce (since being taken to the cleaners is your main point to bash with all the time, I'm assuming that is the case) but not all women fit into your narrow view. It's about time you upgraded your views on us. For the record, I go dutch all the time on dates. Or we'll pay for each other back and forth.