Tmccray, 33

Tosh-love whats larger than life! It's so hard these days to find real people. People who aren't afraid to chat/talk/converse/sit in silence. I just want to find someone willing to get to know me as I am willing to get to know them. I get upset when I feel like its only me in the convo.

Some people don't quite know how to navigate around the issue of being plus size/fluffy/large/big, so I don't. Words mean the world to me, but when I say that I'm a big girl, or I'm plus size, or make the statement that my weight makes me different from my friends, said friends trying to be supportive in their own way say 'oh tosha! no you're not!' But I am, and although I would like to change some things to become healthier, I don't need to be told I'm not who I am. I'm okay with it and I'm a very confident person. I would never use 'plus size/large/big/fat' in a negative way because that's just not how I see it.

But I do love my friends and family. And I love being surrounded by them when possible. Sometimes, though, I like being alone. In many ways I'm a very private person, in other ways not at all. It just depends on how I feel and I don't try to mask the feelings I have because it is just not in my character. And sometimes that gets me into trouble and sometimes it opens up a conversation that otherwise I might have been too afraid to do myself.

But that's just how life goes. I'm okay with that. =D.